I only have two grandchildren, but at times I find it challenging to give them equal attention. I often wonder how grandmothers with lots of grandchildren spread their time among them.
Juliet had me all to herself for almost four years before her little sister, Amelia, was born. She’s an incredibly loving sister, but I think sometimes she forgets she has to share me. For the first year of Amelia’s life, I rarely got time alone with her because Juliet was always vying for my attention. I kept wondering: when am I going to get to know Amelia?
Now that Juliet is in kindergarten, I am getting some quality time alone with my little “Pixie,” as I lovingly refer to Amelia. As she acquires more language and we spend more time together, we’re bonding the way I did with her big sister.
But, when the three of us are together, I need to constantly remind myself that I need to give equal attention to the little one. Otherwise, Juliet tends to dominate in games or choose an activity that is too advanced for Amelia.
The other day we were playing on their swing set and Juliet kept wanting my help on the monkey bars. Meanwhile, Amelia sat patiently in her swing waiting for me to come back and push her. It made me realize that I need to be more conscious of Amelia’s needs until she starts asking for them herself. You know what they say about the “squeaky wheel” getting all the attention!
I’ve read a lot of comments from parents who say they feel bad when grandparents show favoritism toward a particular grandchild. I sure don’t want to get caught in that dilemma.
So how do you grandmothers with several grandchildren manage to give equal time to each one?